Finding yourself!

So, one more year gone by. Another year that brought with itself a whirlwind of experiences. One more year of lost resolutions, of failed promises to ourselves, and the same unending guilt.

Why don’t we start with something different this time?

This year, instead of the usual list of resolutions destined to give guilt at the end of the year, let’s have a different goal. Finding ourselves.

In this time of finding personality blueprints readily available on Instagram, we easily adapt and bend, trying to fit ourselves in one of those readymade prototypes. But why not work on finding your own? On finding the unique nuances that make you, YOU!

The online community is one of extremes. It’s where extremists thrive. You either are a coffee connoisseur or you go caffeine free. You either absolutely live to read, or haven’t opened a book ever. You either are absolutely crazy for it or can’t even stand it. There just isn’t any middle ground. But all of us are not extremists. Finding and adapting to these premade personalities though easy, isn’t just emotionally fulfilling. For, most of us are a fusion of balanced opinions and preferences.

But, you may ask, where do we start on finding our own?

Experimenting is the key I feel. Be open. Be open to experimenting. Try out everything there is to offer. The outside world is huge and boundless with countless opportunities and options. There’s so much to explore that a lifetime will just fall short. But, begin. Get started.

Find new hobbies. Try everything. Don’t get stuck on the ordinary. Try and experiment. Gardening, pottery, reading, maybe rearranging your home to different designs, cooking, baking, painting, sculpting,  dancing, photography, knitting, writing, anything actually. Just get started.

Try. Try new music genres, new cuisines, new flavors, just try and experiment and find what suits you best, makes you feel best, whatever you love.

Find something to get going besides your daily job. Keep experimenting. No need to confine yourself to what’s trending. What suits another may not necessarily suit you. The entire goal is finding yourself, all that makes you!

In all of this, I feel an absolute need for creating your own space, your own cozy space. Where you are You, somewhere you can be your own true self. A space that defines you, that is just so you in its aesthetic and design. Somewhere that has all your needs within reach. Your favourite memories, your most beautiful moments. Everything! Every one should have that. Just to exist, maybe!

The years gone by had their own experiences and lessons. Silent battles we fought and won. So many times we picked ourselves up even when it felt most difficult. Yet we did. Yet we survived. Finding ourselves also comes with not bending to other people’s wills and wishes. Let this be the year you choose yourself. Be you! Unapologetically you!